On this website you will read about all sorts of ways to save and pinch pennies. I also share with you ways I spend and invest my time and money. I am all about making wise decision in how I spend my time, talents and income and I find that friendships are one that need investment.
I am beyond fortunate to have a group of friends that knows all my secrets and I have a feeling I know a bunch of theirs. The women and I have grown up together. Literally. We have been through so much together.
There are 5 of us and here is the short list of what we have been through together:
- Known each other since we were 10 years old.
- Countless boyfriends and crushes.
- College in separate states.
- 9 Marriages.
- 3 Affairs.
- 15 kids (ages 16-4 including 2 sets of twins!)
- 4 step kids.
- 7 grand kids (Yes one of us is a trophy wife!)
- Step parenting.
- Single parenting.
- Multiple career paths.
- Business creation.
- Business failures.
- Domestic physical abuse.
- Domestic emotional abuse.
- Death of parents.
- Different political views.
- Different spiritual views.
But how did we all arrive at where we are in our friendship?
Investment. We invested in each other. We didn’t take the easy way out when times got tough. We didn’t walk away when we didn’t agree with a decision one of us made. We didn’t go in the corner when our opinion or discission was not the most popular. We decided a long time ago that we were in this thing call life, together. There are times we don’t see eye to eye or even give each other the side eye when one of us is going off the deep end but we all eventually come back to center.
We love each other no matter what.
Say I Love You.
You may high five your friends, you may give them a side hug or you may even kiss the air beside their cheek. But have you ever told your friends that you love them? We tell each other that we love each other. We say it out loud and we mean it. Women are known for tearing each other down and being catty. How many times today have you been told that you are loved?
To have a group of women that will lift each other up, encourage, and support each other is a true gift. We love each other.
Staying in touch.
A few years ago we created a secret group on Facebook. It is just the five of us in the group. This is our ‘safe place’ where we can instantly share what ever is happening that the others might need to know about. We know that chances are, one of the other ladies are on Facebook or will be soon and are there with a listening ear. It could be a crazy thing one of the kids did, something one of the husbands did that they shouldn’t have or just a quick little antidote to make us all smile. If one of us isn’t active in the group for several days we know that something major must be happening in her life. The Facebook group is our way of keeping a pulse of what we are all doing. We post things in the group that are not ‘Facebook Official’ that we don’t want to general population of social media to see. We are using social media for being social, it is just we are pretty exclusive on who we are social with!
I admit that we don’t actually SEE each other as a whole group as often as we should. We are spread out across 3 states and getting all our calendars to line up under the right circumstances is a challenge at best. But when we do it is EPIC. The laughing, story retelling, crying, eating, drinking, hugging and shenanigans are well worth the time it took to get together.
We have even talked about just skipping the 20 year high school reunion and getting away together. Just to be tucked away some where with your lifelong friends for a long weekend with nothing to worry about would be awesome! We are trying. We will see if it happens.
Not Telling It All
I could go into a long drawn out post series on how we have arrived at each of the life events listed above. Not only would that be boring, yet dramatic, but it is not necessary. The fact is that these events happened to us. Some of them were from our own decisions, some were the decisions and actions of others. I wanted you to see snapshot of what we have been through so you could see how our friendship has been formed over the years. My point is that we, as women, need to invest in ourselves and each other. It is well worth the time, tears and travel to have friends who will stand next to you for a lifetime.